There was a mix up in the introductory portion of the first part of
this article; the correct sentence is“superfluity comes sooner by white
hairs, but competency(sufficiency),lives longer”. The error is
regretted. The take away message from that quotation taken from William
Shakes speare’s comedy book ; Merchant of Venice as applied to sex,is
that it can in deed be excessive and too much sex has its consequences.
Added to that is the fact that though, young boys and men may not know
it, too much sex by way of frequency, associated with ejaculationor not,
can be harmful to human health.
Complete copulatory sex occurs through a cycle and several stages of
the cycle have been studied to make the work of sex therapist much more
scientific and less subjective . It is essentially a matter , of
ask-give receive, or give-receive ask give , depending on how it
started. Though it will not be very appropriate to discuss them in any
details here,it will be sufficient to say that at one time or the other
during the sex cycle, nearly every major organ in the body is involved.
Of particular importance are the heart, lungs, brain, kidneys, the
penis, clitoris, vagina, the spine which contains the spinal cord .
These structures and their repertoire of blood vessels and nerves are
recruited into action during sex, Little wonder then that a young man
who has diabetes mellitus and allows himself to take a few bottles of
beer while partying with friends may be courting very serious danger
if under the influence of Alcohol he goes further to engage in
passionate physically demanding sex. He may go into coma from which
there may be no recovery.
The risk of dying while having sex, copulatory or non copulatory is
increased for certain individuals and conditions as hereunder:
Age
Erectile dysfunction or persistent inability to achieve and maintain
penile erection is a major problem now tormenting men ,the world over.
More common after the age of 40, it is one reason many men are killing
themselves with sex stimulants . Women are partly to blame for the
amount of indecent exposure available for people of all ages to see.
However, they (women ) argue that it is the ultimate responsibility of
every man to know himself. Arguably,It is unreasonable for a man older
than 50 to expect that his sex drive and performance will be the same as
it was when he was 20 years old; libido and performance will wane with
age, and while a wife of similar age may understand and wait patiently, a
young lady with mountains of energy and sex drive will not . A man
will resort to all sorts of ways and means to match a young and
energetic wife . Many of these ways are capable of leading to untimely
death
Genetics
As stated earlier, being a male of African descent is on it’sown a
risk factor for many diseases of the heart and it’s blood vessels. The
black male is naturally endowed with sex organs which on the average
are remarkably sizeable and efficient . Perhaps it is wise to remember
that the maker designed the African males so no one has it all. And so
from all over the world, there are more males of African descent dying
from complications associated with sex performance enhancing drugs
Alcoholics
For the African male, the geometry or Anatomy of the heart is not
exactly the same as what you find in a White man of the same age. The
pace maker in the heart(SAN) is set to kick start the heart earlier and
to make the heart beat faster, Beyond that, the male African is more
predisposed to have abnormal pacemakers, or double conduction pathways
(wolf Parkinson white syndrome), etc. Because it requires expensive
equipment to diagnose many conditions of the heart , many patients are
not aware they are not as strong as they think. Alcohol increases heart
rate , causes it’s blood vessels to relax and widen. It stimulates the
brain and then later depresses it. It maytherefore stimulate the man,
and then while the spirit is willing, the flesh is too weak to respond .
The man goes for more alcohol until he goes into coma, or the heart
beats faster and faster, until it stops(from excessive stimulation)
Men In Primary Seated And Standing Occupations
Men whose jobs require sitting down orstanding for long periods of
time as required by occupation, are liable to problems of the lower part
of the spine. A common symptom being low back pain. As they grow older,
the problems are likely to get worse even to the extent that the bones
may shift from normal positions. Because the spine is like a beam, it
requires one little snap as may occur during one memorable time of
wonderful sex and death may occur or paralysis from waist down may
pacify the man.
Underlying Medical Conditions
Diabetes Mellitus and Hypertension
Diabetes and hypertension occur frequently in the Nigerian African,
mostly separately but sometimes together. Scientists and physicians
think that the connection may lie somewhere between the small blood
vessels and the equally tiny nerves that keep them alive. What ever the
case, it is safer for couples to go slow and easy on sex if the man is
obese, has diabetes, mellitus, hypertension, or both. Inability to
achieve and maintain erection is very common among patients undergoing
treatment for these conditions, including obesity. It is important to
note that many of the drugs used in the treatment of many conditions
such as hypertension, and others like peptic ulcer which incidentally is
most likely to afflict the man whose blood pressure is chronically
high have a major side effect; they cause impotence, the man has
difficulties getting an erection, or if he manages to have one ,it is
not strong enough for him to achieve penetration or maintain it. Again,
he needs an understanding wife to keep his marriage. If she complaints,
it gets worse. He is forced to resort to drugs, that willfurther give
him stress and the effect is to increase his blood sugar , increase
his blood pressure ,death
Obesity
Whether it is Gyenoid or Truncal obesity, it is bound to affect the
heart and the blood vessels, truncal obesity being much more dangerous.
Sex on it’s own is a form of exercise . Tolerance and exhaustion after
any exercise characterize obesity, particularly when BMI is above 35.
Death during sex, worse after a meal and wine is not uncommon in obese
men.
Adult onset Asthmatics
Asthma,characterized by difficult,noisy and wheezy breathing is a
medical condition that is generally understood to be inherited. It is
now believed that it could be acquired as a result of persistent
exposure to various allergens . Even early exposure to broad spectrum
antibiotics is being increasingly recognized as a risk factor for
developing asthma. Because of the similarities in morphology between
muscles of the heart and the respiratory tree, adult onset asthma is
particularly dangerous as it may actually be coming from a poorly
treated or undiagnosed heart condition. An attack can occur any time,
but not frequently during sex because the stress response to sex, has a
protective effect, but not when the system is over stretched . It will
not be out of place to suggest that affected individuals should be
smart enough to ensure they have a cup of inhaler or nebulizer close by
when necessary
Sickle cell disease . Patients with sickle cell disease; the
heterozygous AS or homozygous SS have issues with flow properties of
blood(haemorheology). Particularly for those with SS, there is a
possibility of throwing emboli, and developing stroke. This is not to
say that they should avoid sex. There are many AS African males who have
four to seven children or more and never suffered any of the crises
that take sickle cell patients to Hospital . Moderation is simplythe
watch ward.
Drugs
Sex steroids, morphine, and other pain killers have body building as
well as performance enhancing properties, and hence, users are mainly
athletes and footballers. What these drugs or preparations also do and
which unfortunately is usually untold is that they can kill at any time,
mostly while the user is actively performing. Staying away from them is
the best decision any young person can make
Sex Toys/sex Games/experiments
All you need to do is watch the DSTV cable program; “1000 ways to
die” and the import of the message will hit you without pain. Sex toys
,games and experiments are designed to make men ,but particularly women
express extremes of pleasure. The risk of dying from multiple organ
failure as the body is pleasured may be rare but very real.
Multiple Partnerscommercial Sex Workers
Commercial sex workers can be brothel based, where they do their
business out in the open and in certain locations, or non brothel
based, where you have to be an ‘area piper’ or belong to know them from
other women. What is common to them however is that, they are willing to
do any thing anytime, any where and at whatever price. That price may
be the death of the young man who wants something new ,strange or
different from sex. Those who patronize commercial sex workers often
complain that they no longer find their wives or partners of many
years sexually appealing. Unfortunately the excitement and peaks of
pleasure derivable from the uninhibited sex available from these people
come with no emotion whatsoever . They take control of every thing
including the capacity of a client to negotiate himself out of danger.
Sex in such circumstances clouds judgment and even the strongest of men
may become willing to pay more to have extraordinary sex ,even when he
knows he might die in the course of it.
Same Sex Partners
For reasons not yet fully understood , individuals in same sex
relationships have many issues to contend with . Partner fidelity,
disclosure status and peculiar ideations feature prominently in the
intuitive perceptions capable of flaring when such individuals are
behind closed doors.
Sex Fights
Strangely, some individuals grow up with certain patterns of behavior
considered deviant or abnormal depending on the society. Some women
become interested in sex or get turned on only after a quarrel or a
fight, with a partner, husband or wife. It might be alright for young
couples, but for older men, a sudden rise in blood pressure occasioned
by a strong argument may rupturethe blood vessels of the brain.
Bleeding into the brain may go on silently for some time and then
progress to a major blow out like a burst pipe later during sex, and
commonly at some time in the night when help is difficult to find.
